Everyone knows being sick really sucks. Nobody looks forward to bed ridden days and insomnia filled nights while battling a cold or flu. What do you think your wife, your husband, girlfriend or boyfriend go through when you’re sick? Have you taken the time to think how YOU being sick sucks for them?
Having just won the Ultimate Germ Fest (UGF) recently has me smelling the green grass again, and opened my eyes as to why it sucks for your significant other when you are the one who is sick.
5 Reasons Why Being Sick Sucks for Everyone Else
It’s probably more fun being sick than being the significant other!
5. Spreading the love…or not
Okay, this one is a given. While sick, we have all these germs just busting to jump from every orifice to infect anyone and everyone else in your general vicinity. Unfortunately for your significant other, this means they are going to have to really do their best to keep YOUR germs at bay. Easier said than done!
What really tends to happen is you can bet your panties your gonna get the bug. And no, a condom isn’t going to help either, sorry.
4. The games we like to play – will you…play?
You know the game. As your cold or flu begins to really jerk you into their world, all you want to do is lay in bed, helpless. EVERY sentence out of your mouth begins with “will you…”?
Will you get me some juice? Will you get me my medicine? Will you get me some tissue? Will you get me some corn flakes?
The non-stop will you’s can lead to a trip on the crazy train! Just remember that pretty soon, those same question will be directed back at you, if their smart, 10 fold!
3. Time travel is possible while sick, but only for dudes
I really think this one pertains more to the male population. For some strange reason when a guy gets a case of the blahs, he immediately is transported to an earlier time in his development.
Talking with your man at this stage is like interacting with a baby. Unfortunately, playing with alien zombies would be more fun than being with your baby right now.
2. Bodily fluids really are gross, especially if they’re not your own
Have you ever watched any one of the numerous shows on the Discovery channel about addicts? Have you ever looked at your self in the mirror while in the middle of battling a cold or flu? Or better yet, your significant other as they are deep in the throws of sickness?
That’s right, same o, same o! You get the picture.
Of course there is always the piles of used tissue that multiply like Tribbles from Star Trek to look forward to.
1. It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to
Yea, it’s a party alright, unfortunately it’s no Cinco de Mayo party, it’s a pity party from hell. The problem isn’t so much the incessant complaining about coughing, aching, insomnia, upset stomach, or any of a hundred other complaints. It’s the fact that as the significant other, it becomes almost a duty to become the empathy sounding board.
It is at this stage biting your tongue becomes second nature as you ride out the pity waves.
Anything sound familiar to you? What is it that sucks for you when someone else is sick? Let us know!
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When he’s sick he can just take the day off from work, me? I have to go no matter how I feel. Then, he’s the cook in the house, not because I can’t but because he’s so picky. When he’s sick I have to cook.
I don’t think so. I think caring for your sickly half would be a nice, tender moment and a special opportunity.
When I’m sick…I really get sick… Thank God it’s not often… When my significant other gets sick…I take care of him and he loves to be taken care of… When he’s sick, he likes me there as much as possible…we both got sick at the same time about six months ago…we were a pair… I made my daughter stay with my mom so she wouldn’t get it…there was no way that I could care for her if she got sick while we were sick…two down at one time in one house is plenty!!
When I’m sick, leave me alone!
Caught a cold on my vacation…not happy about it at all.
UP
good post!! as always!
I have to say, my husband is actually really cool when he is sick. Just kind of wants to be left alone. I just have to check in on him every so often. And when I’m sick, he always takes really good care of me, which I have to admit, I take advantage of. “honey, I think a donut would make me feel better”
So funny because I’m just getting over a little sickness myself. I’m a “don’t bug me” sickie. When my kids were little there was never a sick day for “Mom” – Mom just soldiered on sniffling and sneezing and mostly complaining to the pets who were the only ones who really listened
When hubby get sick (rare) he is pretty good. He keeps the will you’s down to a dull roar (or maybe I just can’t hear him from behind the closed bedroom door? lol)
My husband and I were just sick last week at the same time. Not good when you have five children. I am not sure what is worse, being sick together or separate.
Ugh, I’m sorry you’ve been sick! And I absolutely loved the Tribbles mention.
Does that make me a dork?
Ick! you are so right on all of these! Now the #3? for sure sir, for sure.
Im glad you are better. I agree with all of it. Oh, a condom will work if you wear it on your face, it just makes it harder to not suffocate.
@ann ~ That’s rough not being able to take down days when you’re sick.
@Ocean Girl ~ Absolutely, I couldn’t agree with you more.
@Kari Anne ~ That would definitely be difficult, both sick at the same time. At least when it jumps from one to the other, there is someone up to taking care of the other.
@UP ~ Sorry to hear that, hopefully it wasn’t too bad.
@Donna ~ Haha…I never thought of donuts as having medicinal properties for colds and flu.
@Talon ~ Dogs are great aren’t they? Never a complaint, no matter how bad we feel.
@Kim ~ I would think being sick together is harder, especially when you have 5 children to care for also. Hope you both are 100% now.
@Megan ~ I think it makes me a dork for writing it?
@Sara ~ Haha…I can’t stop chuckling, for I know your other well.
@christina ~ Now that would be a good post for the future…especially with a photo to prove it!
When my husband comes down with a bug, it pisses me off. I know not very compassionate, but from experience I know how it’s going to play out. The reasons are all listed pretty accurately in your post.
I am going to wait on the man lovingly while he is holed up in the bedroom for a week. I’ll start coming down with symptoms and he’ll break his arm patting himself on the back caring for the children for an afternoon while I take a nap so that I can heal myself quickly. He’ll return to work while I’m left to vomit in a toilet (with much better aim I might add) while a toddler uses my breast as a step ladder to climb upon my shoulders to ask what the heck I’m doing while I’m actively wretching. He’ll come home from work, and I’ll look like hell, but he won’t care and want a little action anyway because it’s been a week since he’s had any action.
I’m sure glad you’re feeling better!
I think I’m a fairly easy sick person. I just want to lie on the couch and watch TV and doze off. I don’t mind someone checking in on me occasionally, but I’m not whiny. I’ve always liked looking after my kids when they are sick, and my ex was fairly easy, too.
@Poppy ~ Yea, even though we all like to care for the ones we love when they are sick sometimes it can get a little overbearing. Especially when it transfers to another and they don’t get the attention reciprocated because of jobs or other responsibilities.
@secret agent woman ~ Sounds like ya’ll got it made.
LOL…Oh goodness…Being a retired nurse, MY hubby just wants to curl up under the covers and be left alone…and That puts a crimp in My style! I Constantly check on him and offer tempting items that I believe will help…but no…
When it’s My turn? I’m a Big Baby!Hahaa…
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You are SO right on #3, sir. I swear it’s like the world’s coming to an end when hubby gets sick. I get to wait on him hand and foot…it’s like having another kid. And then? If I get sick after? I can’t say he’s much of a help, nor do I get waited on….what’s up with that?!
When I am sick I am the biggest baby in the world! hahha! yes, now you know if your clothes are smelling really strong of bounce…. heehee!
Kristin
When I am sick I just want to be left pretty much alone. Rest, read, drink juice, nap. My hubby was not feeling well last night, during the night, and pretty much all day today. He isn’t needy of things like juice but he wants to share every moment of how he feels with me. Sigh.
@Donna ~ I can only imagine you kicking the nurse instincts into overdrive.
@Natalie ~ I’m chuckling reading your comment because it sounds so familiar to me. I think guys do their best, but we just aren’t the nurturers like females. We try, but sometimes we suck at it!
@Bringing Pretty Back ~ See, I’m learning all kinds of things.
@TechnoBabe ~ It’s good the two of you share your pains…right?
i dont get sick often but when i do…just leave me alone…let me crawl into my cave and i will be back in 24 hours…
Since I’ve been married more than once (chuckle) I can safely say that MOST, not all, of the male gender takes being sick to a slightly higher level than the female species.
I hibernate and take care of myself until I’m well………..he devises ways of getting, and staying, attached to my hip…………..until he’s all better.
Amen to the whiny baby part of being sick. I’m pretty sure my husband fully morphs into his 5 year old self.
Cute post!
Thanks for checking up on me. Totally sugar free here.
And thanks for the compliment on the freckles. You’ll see next week, I just keep getting more.
Hubby, and even the kids, are pretty good about being ill – they tend to take to their beds, and stay there – I just need to ferry the odd medication to them, if they are up for food, they have what the rest of us are eating, only they have it in isolation!
What I really hate are people who take their germs and sneezes out with them – I’ve actually left a cinema because of some generous soul wanting to share their misery by coughing it all over me. Ugh..!
Glad you’re feeling better.
When I’m sick I still have a child and a job to do.
When he’s sick the apocalypse has started so why do anything but lay in bed?
When my husband is sick he won’t ever admit it. He’ll fight it to the death and yell at me when I chase him around the house with aspirin a thermometer and Nyquill. The only time I catch him is when he is down with over 102 or so.
Then -and only then- am I allowed to nurse him back to heath…as long as I understand that he’s not really sick you know.
I live in a cul-de-sac where colds and flus seem to enter and work their way around. What bothers me the most, when a cold is on the loose, is that since all of us in the cul-de-sac are so close to each other (we are practically co-parenting our 16 children) that some of us (not me so much) think that we might as well get it over with and knock on everybody’s door to inform everyone that we have a cold or the flu.
I wish I had just made that up. Seriously, my neighbor comes over every time his kids are sick to tell us that his son must have the flu because he’s been throwing up all morning.
I am literally scared to open my front door sometimes. By the way, I’m a new follower. I love your posts.
What sucks when my husband is sick is:
1st he tries to spread the crud (he’s constantly forgetting he’s sick and tries to kiss me)
2nd he’s a horrible patient (doesn’t like to take medicine, then complains about how bad he feels)
3rd if he doesn’t work he doesn’t get paid (so he has to end up working even when feeling bad cause he’s self employed)
The only good part of all the above is that he’s usually the healthiest person I know, so he’s very seldom sick.
You hit the hammer on the nail with this one. All so true!! Of course I am perfect when I am sick but my husband becomes a little boy and I ain’t his momma!!
When I am sick I just go to my quiet place and quietly try to get well. Cowboy likes a little more attention! Hate it when someone I have been with lets me know they are throwing up. Gosh, I hate to throw up more than anything in the world!
@brian ~ Hibernation really is the way to go.
@carol ~ That’s cuz he loves you, I’m sure!
@Allyson ~ Guys are really just kids at heart.
@Shrinky ~ I know exactly what you are talking about, I’ve actually had someone cough in front of me and I could feel a little hit me in the eye. It was like I could feel the sick invading until I was completely useless a couple days later.
@KLZ ~ lol…yea, us guys can be a little needy at times.
@MrsBlogAlot ~ And don’t EVEN try to get us to go to the hospital!
@Patricia ~ Welcome, and thanks for the comp! Now that would get on my nerves for sure.
@Ramona ~ I’m the same way, I’ll feel like I’m getting better and try to kiss my sweetie.
@Debby ~ All women are perfect when sick…right? And yes, us guys can transform at any time.
@Weekend Cowgirl ~ If there is anything I hate worse than vomiting, it’s seeing or hearing someone else.
You forgot the whining. Oh the whining.
@Blond Duck ~ The whining would come in on #3…after we time travel back to baby years.
those are good ones, being a single mother..i would also add…having a sick mama in the house is not fun…
–>Even when I feel like I’m on my death bed I don’t act too differently except I like to sleep. My husband, it’s like the world is off its axis til he is healthy again. Drives.Me.Nuts.
Thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. I so enjoyed this post, I am not the best patient….I want to be left alone please and thank you. My husband of eight years has never been sick since we have been together! He doesn’t dare to be sick, he’s afraid he would turn into “me”!
@kelly ~ Single, mother, and sick…that would be rough.
@WebSavvyMom ~ That’s what us guys are here for, to drive ya a little nuts.
@Cheryl ~ I guess it’s safe to say…you are good for his health!
I’m so behind on all my reading!! Just saw this one. Is it wrong that I’m laughing?? HA!! You men really do turn into children when your sick
No, not at all…and yes we do!
It sucks if they have a cough and you’ve spent the whole day taking care of them and you are exhausted and want to sleep, but they keep you awake with their hacking and you care, but damn it you’re tired!!!
It can get EXHAUSTING if your caring for a man!
When she was a teenager, My daughter always announced a cold or flu with: “I’m dyin’ here; I’m dyin’.”
Ever the drama queen, she still tries it as an adult, but I tell her, “I’ve already seen that show.”
Haha, I can picture that scene so vividly.
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